As many of you know, I have struggled with Allie's behavior since she was born. Allie was born being stubborn and strong willed. Part of me is happy she's like this because as we all know, a child with medical issues is normally strong willed and stubborn and they beat the odds.
However, 3 years of fighting this behavioral battle with Allie and I'm at my wits ends. Between dealing with Allie's behavior issues and being in charge of her feeding and medical issues, I've got my plate full. I am the one who primarily parents the children since Matt works outside the house and I'm the sole one who tube feeds Allie. Not sure why my husband thinks he doesn't have to tube feed her but he hasn't given her a feeding (or medication) in I don't know how long. Even on the weekends, I'm the one who gives her all her feedings. Sorry Matt, I'm throwing you under the bus but I'm only stating the truth!
Anyway, sorry for that soapbox, but after witnessing Allie's behavior everyday, I'm convinced there is something wrong. I set up a special appointment with her Pediatrician to discuss her behavior and to get suggestions on how to help us out. Her Pediatrician thinks Allie's behavior is normal and it's typical for her age. Ummmm.....I honestly don't agree with that.
I don't want behavioral help for Allie simply for my sanity......no, it's bigger than that. I have two major concerns when it comes to Allie's behavior and if one of the items below is true....I would feel awful if I didn't get her help!
1) She could be depressed and we don't know it. With having medical issues and no control over them, maybe she is generally just not happy with life. If she is depressed, I want to make sure we figure it out and help her the proper way. Allie receives a ton of love and affection, especially from me since I'm generally the only person she likes on a daily basis. However being depressed sometimes requires more than just love & affection.
2) She could not feel well. It's possible Allie just feels crummy all the time, maybe her tummy hurts, etc. So, she's just unhappy because she's constantly in pain. She doesn't complain of being in pain but I do know her pain tolerance is extremely high. So, maybe she's just developed a new normal which includes pain and that is why she's acting out.
No matter what is actually going on in Allie's head when her behavior goes astray, I will continue to push for answers. I need to make sure that Allie is okay! I've contacted Dr. Morhland, a Neuropsychologist in Wausau and I'm hoping to get in with him sometime this month. I will push for answers and maybe I'm totally wrong and Allie's behavior is age appropriate, but honestly if her behavior is age appropriate now, I'm dreading the day she's a teenager - lol.